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Instead of ever aiming for happiness, aim for clarity and resolve. Aim for elements that help you move towards things that really matter to you. Find yourself some real, important long-term goals, and move towards them steadily, working hard throughout.
What Else Can You Do To Encourage Happiness?
Beyond finding real, lasting goals and plans to stick with, it helps to take care of yourself. Keep your health, both physical and mental, where it needs to be. Make sure you’re not engaging in too much escapism, minimise video games, trash TV, social media. Go on a dopamine fast, and stay away from all those quick hits of happy in favour of your long-term goals.
Eat a diet that encourages you to feel good and focused, do a little exercise every day. By the same token, though, taking care of yourself doesn’t mean becoming obsessed with your diet, or spending three hours a day in the gym.
That’s just another form of manufacturing false meaning in your life. These healthy, positive behaviours only really work if they’re supporting your actual long-term goals and lifestyle. They’re just another side dish, not the main course.
Meditation and apps like Analyze.Life can also help you keep on top of things and moving towards to a happier, more ambitious and driven existence. Simply achieving the clarity and drive of pursuing big, engaging goals is always going to be a great way to go.
Another key point is romantic partners and friends. We are the average of the five people we spend the most time with when it comes to behaviours, lifestyle, ideas, mentality, etc. If you’re spending all your time with unhappy, lazy people who don’t treat you well, you’re violently hacking into your entire life’s potential. If you’ve got a partner you’re not happy with, get rid. Same goes for friends.
If Needs Be, Shake Things Up
That leads me onto my last point. If you’re unhappy, depressed, overwhelmed or just feel a bit lost in life, chances are you’re doing something that worked you into a corner. Bad jobs can be one of the worst offenders, especially when they provide a good salary that you’ve come to depend on.
Same goes for unhappy relationships, or simple anxiety about chasing your goals. At the end of the day, if you don’t try, you’ll never know. Relaxing into easy mediocrity is never really a good option. Successful people, more often than not, are just people who tried and failed so many times that they couldn’t help but get it right eventually.
If you’re in that situation, feeling trapped and overwhelmed, don’t be afraid to shake things up and go after things that are genuinely meaningful to you.