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Trust is also an important element and one highlighted by Loretta Breuning. According to her, you can stimulate your oxytocin levels by building trust consciously and creating realistic expectations about others.
How can we increase our oxytocin? Paul J. Zak, PhD recommends, among others:
- To surprise someone by giving a gift without expecting anything in return,
- To share a meal with someone you like,
- To express your love
> Conclusion 2: Strengthen your bond with the people you like.
Serotonin and that nice feeling we get when we feel respected
In Loretta Breuning’s words, “as much as you may dislike this, you enjoy the good feeling of serotonin when you feel respected by others. Your brain seeks more of that feeling by repeating behaviors that triggered it in your past.”
Confidence will trigger your serotonin. Focus on looking with humility at the good things you have accomplished and work on your self-esteem. “If you focus on your losses you will depress your serotonin, even if you’re a rock star or a CEO. You can build the habit of focusing on your wins”, says Breuning.
To increase serotonin, Christopher Bergland suggests that we should challenge ourselves regularly and pursue things that reinforce a sense of purpose, meaning and accomplishment. Being able to say “I did it!” will produce a feedback loop that will reinforce behaviors that build self esteem.
> Conclusion 3: Focus on your wins and not on your losses.
Endorphins to relieve pain and stress
Endorphin produces a brief euphoria that masks pain. Similar to morphine or opiates, it acts as an analgesic and sedative, diminishing our perception of pain. With high endorphin levels, we feel less pain and fewer negative effects of stress.
Endorphins are produced during strenuous physical exertion, sexual intercourse and orgasm.
Along with regular exercise, laughter is one of the easiest ways to induce endorphin release. Also, eating chilli peppers or chocolate can also lead to enhanced secretion of endorphins. According to the site MedicineNet.com, the release of endorphins upon ingestion of chocolate likely explains the comforting feelings that many people associate with this food and the craving for chocolate in times of stress.
> Conclusion 4: Find situations where you can laugh out loud, do regular exercise, and enjoy your sex life (and treat yourself with chocolate from time to time).
We can conclude that the recipe for happiness is quite simple. Without factoring in external conditions, we only need to take care of 6 things:
- Have goals to look forward to
- Be open to learning new things
- Connect with the people we like
- Believe in ourselves
- Have fun
To put our happy chemicals to work, we need goals, love, self-confidence, and a lot of fun. Click To Tweet